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Occupation: Senior customer success manager
Industry: Tech
Age: 33
Location: Kansas City, MO
Salary: $123,500 + bonus (which ranges from $20,000 to $40,000 per year).
Household Income/Finances Setup: $261,400. My husband T. is also in tech and makes $118,000. We do a yours-mine-ours approach to our finances. We have not merged everything, but have joint accounts for our house, travels, and a joint credit card. Both our names are on the house, even though T. was the one to put the downpayment on it as he was more established and owned his previous place. Annually we sit down and review our assets, debt, and goals financially. During this time I’ll typically bring up the conversation of if we want to merge our finances more (both of us have been fine with how we do it currently). The majority of the time now we’re 50/50 on splitting things, but since I do make more with my bonuses, I’ve been more prone towards doing 60/40 on certain items.
Individual Assets: Savings: $16,500; checking: $900; 401(k)/rollover: $105,000; investments $3,900. T.’s 401(k): $373,557.58; T.’s savings: $9,000; T.’s investments: $2,400.
Joint Assets: Home equity: $125,000; car value (both our cars are paid off): ~$14,000; savings: $29,000.
Debt: HELOC: $13,900; home loan: $233,286; coding school: $3,000.
Paycheck Amount (Every Two Weeks): $2,808.34
Pronouns: She/her

Monthly Expenses

Housing Costs: Mortgage: $2,114.97 (split 60/40 — 60 on me). We own a three-bed/2.5-bath home.
Loan Payments: HELOC: $500; coding school: $146.
Utilities & Streaming: $250 (average total of my share for internet, Hulu TV, Max, Apple TV, and Netflix).
Cell Phone: $45
Family Spotify: $13
Apple Storage: $2.99
Google Storage: $1.99
Chewy: $139.91 (every five weeks)
Dog Vet Supplement Plan: $64.95 (I cover).
Pet Insurance: $50 (T. pays).
Peloton: $22 (my half).
Gym Membership: $76
ACLU Donation: $25
Planned Parenthood Donation: $15
Joint Savings: $500 (me); $300 (T.).
Individual Savings: $250
Individual Travel Account: $200

Was there an expectation for you to attend higher education? Did you participate in any form of higher education? If yes, how did you pay for it?
Yes, I was sent to a private collegiate high school. The majority of my peers and the community I lived in were wealthy or upper-middle class. In my mind there was no other option but to attend college after high school. I ended up attending an out-of-state public university and received my bachelor’s. From the beginning my parents stated they would cover half of my college and I would be responsible for the other half. Anything past four years or a graduate degree I would be on my own. I have three younger siblings and they offered this for all of us. I took out public and private student loans to cover my half of school. I walked away with around $83,000 total ($30,000 in federal loans and $53,000 in private loans).

Growing up, what kind of conversations did you have about money? Did your parent(s)/guardian(s) educate you about finances?
My mom had me open my first bank account at the age of eight after my First Communion (Catholic school kid) and before college my parents helped me get my own credit card to begin building credit. There were conversations around how and why to use a credit card and to be mindful of always paying it off every month. Outside of that, not much else was discussed regarding finances. This led to a lot of trial and errors in my 20s.

What was your first job and why did you get it?
I began babysitting at the age of 12 almost every weekend. I got my first tax paying job my senior year of high school as a server. These jobs were so I could have my own fun money to spend out with friends, movies, shopping, etc.

Did you worry about money growing up?
Not really, there were moments where I would compare my life to other classmates, since being surrounded by wealth led to me wondering why we weren’t taking yearly Spring Break trips or why I didn’t get my own car at 16. We had everything we could need and more. My parents made sure we could do extracurriculars and have amazing experiences many other kids did not get to have, I realized that as I got older and away from the top 1% (or say 5%) bubble I grew up in.

Do you worry about money now?
Short term, currently no. I feel pretty confident with my emergency fund and our joint funds to cover any concerns. From a future perspective, yes. Whether we decide to have a child or two, I hear and see my friends talk about how heavy the expenses are and I am concerned about giving those potential children a well-rounded life. Additionally, I am always concerned about retirement savings. I’m currently in the mindset that I’m going to have to work forever at this point, while my husband T. reminds me it’s a joint effort and we’ll be okay.

At what age did you become financially responsible for yourself and do you have a financial safety net?
For me it was a gradual financial independence. I’d say at 22 years old for the most part, but my parents let me stay on their health insurance and covered my share of the phone plan until I was 26. I definitely have a financial safety net in my husband T., but I also know both our parents would help us out a bit or let us live with them if things were to become dire.

Do you or have you ever received passive or inherited income? If yes, please explain.
In my mind yes: my parents gave me $3,000 to help with a downpayment on a new car in my mid 20s when I was broke, working two jobs, and my car died unexpectedly. I had not learned the financial literacy I know now. Additionally, when I turned 30 they surprised me and paid off the last of my private student loans, which was $35,000. It was completely unexpected and I cried when they told me.

Day One: Monday

9 a.m. — I’m slow this Monday. I get dressed in leggings and a sweatshirt (I’ve been working from home full time since COVID-19). I head downstairs to grab coffee and a splash of almond milk plus two clementines to start my work day.

10:30 am — The perks of work from home: I head back downstairs for more food. I grab Greek yogurt, granola, blackberries and blueberries.

12:45 p.m. — I make protein pancakes and eggs + egg whites for lunch. During that time I unload the dishwasher and quickly pop into my husband T.’s office to chat about house stuff. I have a plan to update the front yard because so many plants and weeds have created a not-so-nice-looking landscape. Granted we need to wait about a month till the weather warms up a bit more. Back to my office for meetings.

3:30 p.m. — My last call ends 10 minutes early, woohoo. Since I work from home, during the work week I’ll usually take a break in the middle of the afternoon to walk our dog for 20-30 minutes. After our walk, I grab a clear protein+energy drink — my current obsession.

5:30 p.m. — I log out for the day and go for a solo 40-minute walk to reset and enjoy the nice weather. Afterwards, I feed our dog dinner and grab a Chomp Stick and skinny pop for myself. T. picks up some items at the grocery store we need: almond milk, Greek yogurt, and flaxseeds. $14.11

7:30 p.m. — I make dinner for T. and me — chicken parmesan and protein pasta. T. does the dishes. We hang downstairs and watch some TV till about 10 p.m. when I go upstairs to do my nighttime skincare routine (which is a lot): double cleanse with Clean It Zero balm and La Roche-Posay purifying foaming cleanser, TIRTIR Milky toner, La Roche-Posay Retinol, COSRX eye cream, Clarins multi-active nuit cream, and Torriden lip essence. Afterwards I read (Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger by Soraya Chemaly) for 45 minutes before going to sleep.

Daily Total: $14.11

Day Two: Tuesday

7:30 a.m. — I wake up and scroll and read my newsletters and social media for 30 minutes (this is pretty typical in the morning for me). Get ready for the day and do my morning skincare (toner, vitamin C serum, eye cream, moisturizer, and sunscreen). I throw in my laundry while reheating leftover protein pancakes. I also grab my coffee before heading upstairs to my office to start my workday.

12 p.m. — I’m going to do Girl Lunch today. I grab a Chomp Stick, Skinny Pop, protein bar and clear protein drink to keep me going. During that time I also fold laundry and load and run the dishwasher (#multitasking).

3 p.m. — I take a 30-minute walk break with the dog. During this time, I catch up on the phone with my dad on his new transition to retirement life.

5 p.m. — I log out of work for the day. I eat one more Chomp Stick and I hop on the Peloton bike for a 30-minute ride and 10 minutes of stretching. I need to run errands as we have a snowstorm with high winds coming in tonight and tomorrow. When I get in my car the empty light is on so I stop for gas right by our house before heading to the grocery store. $45.31

6:30 p.m. — I hit up Trader Joe’s for some items for a dinner I’m making tomorrow. Chicken broth, a lemon, vegetable soup, Italian dressing, baby carrots, frozen vegetable fried rice, TJ’s mac and cheese, and protein bars. I also grab a blank card for a friend who won a big award for her work. Have definitely come shopping hungry as I buy a few extra items we really don’t need. While I’m at the store, T. makes a frozen pepperoni pizza for us, so I come home to dinner ready. So hungry! Afterward we watch some TV before I head upstairs around 10 p.m. to do my nighttime skincare routine and about 45 minutes of reading my book before bed. $28.25

Daily Total: $73.56

Day Three: Wednesday

7:45 a.m. — Slow start again. Morning routine, skincare, and I get dressed in leggings and a sweater. I make protein pancakes, eggs and egg whites, and grab my coffee with almond milk.

10 a.m. — I check my credit card. I do this daily so I am aware of my spending. I’ve previously been in some credit card debt before and I refuse to let this happen again. I see my card has been charged for our dog’s food from Chewy. We have this sent to us every five weeks. Our dog is on a special vet-approved food, which makes this pricey. In the last three years it’s gone up over $30, thanks to inflation. We’ve switched his food in the past (four times in one year), so switching now when he’s almost 10 years old doesn’t feel right. Sigh.

12:30 p.m. — I snack on a protein bar and I decide to take 15 minutes to vacuum up my office and downstairs a bit. We have a German Shepherd dog that typically requires regular vacuuming of our home. Fur is always everywhere, so pretty much this is just managing it. I’m still full from breakfast so I only grab a clear protein energy drink for the time being.

4:30 p.m. — Well I’m finally done with meetings for the day. I missed my afternoon walk with our dog but T. took him, since it was too cold to walk him this morning. I decide to make a cup of Trader Joe’s vegetable soup. I also grab skinny pop and clementines as I am now starving. Man, my eating is off this week — I’m working on trying to eat more high-protein meals and I may have had too big of a breakfast this morning. After resting, I jump on the Peloton for a 15-minute ride, 20 minutes of upper body work and five minutes of core work.

7:30 p.m. — I whip up a favorite for this year so far: lemon garlic butter chicken thighs, green beans and potatoes. T and I watch some TV before I head upstairs around 9:30 p.m. to go blow dry my hair, do my night time skincare routine, 45-minutes of reading and bed by 11:30 p.m.

Daily Total: $0

Day Four: Thursday

7:30 a.m. — I wake up and scroll on my phone for 15 minutes before getting out of bed to get ready for the day. I do my morning routine with my skincare and I throw on a Target long-sleeve shirt and leggings. After that I head downstairs, let the dog out back, unload the clean dishes that T. washed last night, reheat leftover protein pancakes for breakfast, and pour myself a cup of coffee — thanks to T., who got our coffee ready when he went downstairs earlier to take out our trash for pickup. I have an 8:30 a.m. meeting this morning, so I need to be on it today.

11:30 a.m. — I’m starving and I’m already ready for lunch. I reheat leftovers from last night, grab a clear protein drink, and refill my coffee.

2:45 p.m. — I sign off work to walk the dog for 25 minutes. Thankfully it’s finally starting to warm back up a bit. On my way back to my office I grab a protein bar and Skinny Pop. It’s Thursday and I am so ready for it to be the weekend.

4:30 p.m. — I decide to clock out early to go run errands. I make a return at Nordstrom Rack and wander around a bit but find nothing of interest. I’ve put on weight the last couple of years and with working from home I’ve struggled with dressing my body as well as finding confidence in what my style actually is. I head to Sephora to grab some face sunscreen since I’m almost out. I grab my usual Supergoop! Glowscreen and decide to try a new one, too: Innisfree Daily UV Defense Sunscreen. This new one is half the price so if I really like it could lower my skincare costs (at least that’s my rationale). $61.10

6:30 p.m. — I reheat leftover chicken parmesan and protein pasta. T. has a rec sport game tonight so we’re not eating together. After dinner I put on Is it Cake? and color in one of my coloring books. This has been a good way for me to stay off my phone and decompress from the political landscape in 2025. I need a bit of a break in the evenings since I take in most of the news with my newsletters in the morning. After that break, I take our dog out for a 30-minute walk. Afterwards, I double cleanse my face and decide to do some selfcare: whiten my teeth and a face mask. I use my Caudalie’s Instant Detox Mask since I’m breaking out and about to get my period. T. gets home around 9:45 p.m. as I’m doing my night time skincare routine and we catch up.

Daily Total: $61.10

Day Five: Friday

7:30 a.m. — I get out of bed right away, no scrolling today. I do my morning routine and go downstairs to make protein pancakes and coffee. I have meetings that start at 8 a.m. In between meetings I go downstairs to refill my water bottle, put away my dirty dishes, and grab snacks (a protein bar and clear energy drink). It’s a busy Friday with a few escalations from clients. Yay…

1:15 p.m. — I finish up a 35-minute Peloton ride and go downstairs to reheat the last of the garlic lemon chicken high and green beans and grab a bag of Skinny Pop. We have plans this evening so my workout needed to be during lunch. I typically will just work through my lunch.

4:30 p.m. — I grab another protein drink while getting ready to go out this evening. I throw on a plain black long-sleeve shirt and dark jeans, with brown boots. Before our event tonight, T. is picking up beer from his favorite brewery. To celebrate the weekend, I buy us a round of drinks — an IPA for T. and a seltzer for me. Afterwards we go pick up our season ticket holder scarves for KC Current (a women’s professional soccer league). $16.34

6:45 p.m. — After the season ticket holder event, we decide to hit up one of my favorite Mexican food places. We each get two margaritas, and we split some salsa and queso fundido. For our main meal, I get two tacos a la carte and T. gets a burrito. I was SUPER hungry, and definitely feel like I ate a bit too much. T. pays. We both take turns paying for drinks and meals from our own individual accounts.

Daily Total: $16.34

Day Six: Saturday

8 a.m. — Our dog is whining for us to get up so I roll out of bed and go downstairs to let him out while making myself a cup of coffee. I eventually do a 20-minute leg strength class, five minutes of core and 10 minutes of stretching. Before getting ready for the day. I am meeting a friend for brunch.

10:45 a.m. — I meet up with one of my best friends, A., and we grab breakfast at a local place nearby. We split a homemade blueberry pop-tart (which the waiter comps) and a slice of their pistachio and cherry French toast. For the main, I try their lavender latte with skim milk and avocado toast. A. gets her usual turkey and avocado Benedict with a honey-bee latte. We split the bill evenly. I over-tip because our waitress was awesome ($24.94 + $10 tip). $34.94

12:30 p.m. — As we walk out, we window shop and talk about gift giving for our partners. T. and I have our third wedding anniversary coming up and neither of us are big gift people. Instead, we will usually look at doing an experience together, like a trip, sports event, concert, or going to a new restaurant. A. and I decide to stop in a local jewelry store. I end up picking up a new pair of KC Current earrings and A. convinces me about a purse that’s similar to something I’ve been eyeing on Etsy for a while. $100.71

3:30 p.m. — T. and I are at my college friend’s co-ed baby shower. I’m so excited for them: they’ve been through a lot to get here — IVF, PCOS, a surgery — and now she’s due in about two months. I snack on some Sour Paatch Kids and drink a White Claw while we mingle. On our way out of the party I grab a bag of goldfish for the road.

6:45 p.m. — I’ve been craving our favorite sushi place all week, so T. and I decide that is what’s for dinner tonight. On the weekends we don’t usually cook dinners. We each get a large Sapporo, I get a cup of clear soup, and we share multiple sushi rolls. We talk about Japan and planning for T.’s 40th birthday there next year. Since T. paid for dinner last night, tonight is on me. $109.75

Daily Total: $245.40

Day Seven: Sunday

9:30 a.m. — It’s Daylight Savings and I end up sleeping in later than expected (T. got up with our dog this morning). I place a grocery order pickup at Target and double check to see that everything went through. I order granola, Kodiak pancake mix, paper towels, ground beef, protein bars, broccoli, a red onion, grape tomatoes, a couple of potatoes, green beans, zucchini, a lemon, paprika, strawberries, clementines, garlic, sesame seed oil, and dog treats. I make myself a cup of coffee and reheat some leftover protein pancakes for breakfast. $82.62

1 p.m. — I walk 10 minutes to a coffee shop by our house to meet up with two of our neighbors who have become friends. We are planning to throw another mutual neighbor friend of ours a joint baby shower. We catch up about our love for our dogs and begin brainstorming, planning, and budgeting for the shower. I get an iced coffee with oat milk and had almost $4 to use towards it, so I just pay the difference. $2.32

2:45 p.m. — After coffee, I drive to pick up our groceries and a new faucet for our half bath. The faucet has stopped working and after researching online the best option is a plumber and replacement. I go to Lowe’s on the way to Target. I grab a new black matte faucet and a matching towel holder. Once back at the house, I rush around quickly and T. helps me unload everything. I grab a protein bar and clear protein drink. I’m meeting up with a newer friend at a park to walk around and catch up. She’s new to the area, 22, and family on my mom’s side. I sometimes feel my age when spending time with her but she’s always so sweet. $135.11

6:30 p.m. — I spend two hours at the park, while we catch up on life. I give her some advice and I’m so proud to hear how engaged she’s gotten in the community here. I’ve invited her to join our kickball team this spring and it seems like she’ll be in. On the way home, I pick up a bag of frozen French fries because T. is making us burgers and salad. $4.78

7 p.m. — Since I brought up kickball I decide to sign up for the spring season now so I don’t forget. Unfortunately, like everything else in this economy, the league’s pricing has gone up. T. finishes making dinner and we sit down to eat: homemade burgers, salad and French fries. T. is an introvert and needed a recharge day at home, so he mostly hung out watching TV inside and walking our dog. I can tell he’s feeling energized. We decide to watch the Love Is Blind reunion. Afterwards, I do my typical evening routine, wash face, night-time skincare, and I cut my reading short to just 25 minutes before sleep.  $65

Daily Total: $289.83

The Breakdown

Conclusion

“Fun fact: I’ve been tracking my purchases monthly for a while now — since I first began reading Refinery29’s Money Diaries. Seeing this diary written out I do have some buyer’s remorse on the new purse and I definitely didn’t need two face sunscreens — though as a social person who works from home, I don’t feel guilty when I meet up with someone for a coffee or meal so to me I see that as an experience and quality time with the people I care about. Overall, while I do want to curb my spending, I was pretty proud of myself for the week and will continue to work on impulse buys.”

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The biggest night in fashion is upon us. The 2025 The Metropolitan Museum of Art Costume Institute Gala, best known as the Met Gala, is Monday, May 5, and this year’s theme is “Superfine: Tailoring Black Style.” It’s an ode to Black dandyism in all of its refined and sophisticated glory.

The theme is inspired by Barnard professor and guest curator Monica L. Miller’s 2009 book Slaves to Fashion: Black Dandyism and the Styling of Black Diasporic Identity. But prior to the theme reveal, those not in the trenches of fashion may have never even heard of Black dandyism. But most likely, they could identify it: a well-tailored suit, hard-bottom shoes and a flamboyant hat or walking cane to bring it all together.

The Met will “illustrate how Black people transformed from being enslaved and stylised as luxury items, acquired like any other signifier of wealth and status, to autonomous self-fashioning individuals who are global trendsetters,” according to Vogue.

This year’s Met Gala co-chairs are Colman Domingo, A$AP Rocky, Lewis Hamilton and Pharrell Williams. Each of their respective styles is an example of modern day Black dandyism. And even though that may paint a picture, that doesn’t exactly define Black dandyism. Before Monday’s big event, here’s a definitive guide to this year’s theme.

What is Black dandyism?

On its surface, a dandy is defined as “a man unduly devoted to style, neatness, and fashion in dress and appearance,” as noted by the Oxford Dictionary. But historically, dandyism has roots in 18th century Britain when enslaved Black people were used as accessories for white people to flaunt their wealth. During the transatlantic slave trade, enslavers dressed Black people in extravagant clothing and paraded them around, calling them “luxury slaves.” It was used as a dehumanizing form of minstrelsy that further objectified Black men.

As time went on, Black people reclaimed Black dandyism. What once was used to demean us became a subversive tool for resistance throughout the diaspora. Historical giants Booker T. Washington and W.E.B. DuBois used fashion to command respect, dignity and authority during the Reconstruction and post-Reconstruction eras.

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During the Harlem Renaissance, Zora Neale Hurston, Langston Hughes, James Baldwin and others continued the tradition of dandyism, pushing for both revolution and agency with their own style. Their fashion wasn’t asking for permission, rather running to the edge of social convention and daring the rest of the world to keep up.

Fashion historian and assistant curator of The Cleveland Museum of Art Darnell-Jamal Lisby told CDFA that Black style has long been a tool to communicate and navigate power.

“It forges cultural expressions independent of Eurocentric definitions,” he said. “Black dandyism, in particular, carves out identity – at times rejecting Eurocentric ideals and at others existing within or alongside them. This refined self-styling conveys Black agency and consciousness.”

Even to this day, we see Black dandyism as a bold form of expression and rejection of the boxes society aims to keep us in. It’s evolved to include more contemporary interpretations, including streetwear and haute couture.

What are some modern examples of Black dandyism?

Today’s dandyism emphasizes bold colors, extravagant accessories and unique tailoring, but is still rooted in Black self-expression. Along with the co-chairs, great examples of modern day those who draw from dandism are Janelle Monáe with her perfectly-fit suits, Ayo Adebiri and her red carpet looks (often courtesy of Thom Browne), and Jidenna in his “Classic Man” era. Vogue’s May issue, captured by Tyler Mitchell and styled by Law Roach, features Domingo, Rocky, Adebiri, Monáe, Lakeith Stanfield, John Batiste and more Black stars breaking down their interpretation of dandyism.

Pharrell along with André 3000, a host committee member, and Big Boi of Outkast have helped reshape dandyism from a hip-hop lens, leading to younger acts like Tyler, the Creator to adapt the style. Playwright Jeremy O. Harris called himself a dandy, in a recent Vogue essay, “To be a Black dandy is to dress as though you know you’re loved and therefore have no use for shame.”

Fashion icons Dapper Dan, also a host committee member, and June Ambrose are also exemplary dandies whose impactful contributions have helped the style evolve over the years.

It must also be noted that one of the most prolific recent examples was the late André Leon Talley. The Vogue editor and fashion icon was the magazine’s first Black male creative director. His passion for fashion and tailoring was apparent, as his voice became the one you wanted to hear every Met Gala up until his death in 2022. And it’s a voice that will be deeply missed this year as the theme feels like it was made especially for him.

Why is this year’s Met gala theme important?

On fashion’s biggest night, all eyes will be on the attendees paying homage to a timeless style with roots in Black history. It’s the first time in more than 20 years that the exhibit exclusively features menswear. It’s also the first time in history that the co-chairs of the Met Gala are all Black men, with LeBron James as honorary co-shair.

The actual exhibition will tell the story of Black dandyism’s evolution over time through clothing and accessories, showcasing the work of designers like Virgil Abloh and Grace Wales Bonner. It will also highlight style in living rooms, lecture halls and night clubs. The exhibition opens on May 10 and runs until Oct. 26.

“Dandyism can seem frivolous, but it often poses a challenge to or a transcendence of social and cultural hierarchies,” Miller, who’s also  professor and chair of Barnard’s Africana Studies Department, said in a statement. “It asks questions about identity, representation, and mobility in relation to race, class, gender, sexuality, and power. This exhibition explores dandyism as both a pronouncement and a provocation.”

This year’s theme also comes at a time when diversity, equity and inclusion initiatives are under legislative attack, leaving even non-federal organizations folding under the pressure. Add onto that the fashion industry’s less than welcoming reputation for inclusivity.

Met curator Andrew Bolton told Vogue that this show signifies a big step in the museum’s commitment to diversity “as well as redressing some of the historical biases within our curatorial practice.” He continued, “It’s very much about making fashion at the Met more of a gateway to access and inclusivity.”

The theme is Black as hell. What could go wrong?

This is the first time a Met Gala theme will be honoring Black style specifically. Though the moment is celebratory and long overdue, it’s giving some pause. Historically speaking, many white people have had a hard time — or just been plain ignorant — about the line between appreciation and appropriation of Black culture. From cornrows to trends deemed as “ghetto fabulous,” all too often we’ve seen mainstream culture co-opt and capitalize off of Black culture while simultaneously villainizing those who created it.

Though the dress code is “Tailored for You,” a nod to the exhibition’s focus, some social media users fear there will be non-Black attendees who may make racist and egregious choices. (Blackface isn’t totally outside of the realm of possibilities, unfortunately, some believe.)

One person on X said “I’m still nervous about this Met Gala theme [because] it can get real racist, REAL fast.” Some have also noted that they will be keeping their eye out for notable figures who should be at this year’s gala but have never been invited in years prior. Bria Van Cooten posted a TikTok video calling out the Costume Institution for never inviting Ambrose, an influential dandy and costume designer. While things could go sideways, it is refreshing that this year’s theme is honoring the impact of Black style. Let’s hope white celebs read the room and approach their outfit choices wisely, and with the reverence the theme deserves. Overall, viewers just want to tap into their inner Miranda Priestly, not their inner Jesse Jackson.

The Met Gala will take place on Monday, May 5 in New York City. Viewers can watch live coverage on Vogue’s YouTube channel, E! and Peacock at 6 p.m. ET. And keep it locked to @r29unbothered on Tiktok and Instagram for our coverage!

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Some collaborations set off a frenzy — and Gap x Dôen’s first drop was one of them, selling out before you could even hit “add to cart.” Now, the two brands are back with a second collection of breezy, summer-ready staples that are sure to go fast.

Both labels joined forces last year for what became a wildy successful collaboration, so it only makes sense that they’d return for a second. “We were overwhelmed by the excitement and success of our first collection with Gap,” said co-founder and CEO of Dôen, Margaret Kleveland, in a press release. “Our second collaboration blends the effortless femininity and timeless style of both brands, while celebrating the incredible community that has shaped Dôen.”

The campaign imagery features some of Dôen’s muses, specifically the women who served as supporters, according to the release. This time around, the collection marks a first: The introduction of menswear, including summer-ready poplin and eyelet shirts. Plus, there are seriously precious baby and toddler styles, so the whole family can coordinate.

“The second collection of California vintage-inspired classics celebrates timeless femininity,” the release states, in “an ode to both brands’ effortless and easy dressing, introducing new silhouettes and prints.”

From reimagined denim staples to coastal essentials, the collection stands out with idyllic takes on nautical colors, gingham prints, airy eyelets, and elevated blue-jean washes. Whether you’re in the market for a nostalgic spring dress or an easy matching set, these designs will have you planning your next weekend picnic or seaside getaway.

The 38-piece Gap x Dôen collection will be available globally online and in select Gap stores starting May 2 at 12 p.m. EST. (Gap cardmembers can shop early via the app on May 1.)

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There was a time when slip dresses were strictly reserved for the bedroom — worn with curlers, fuzzy slippers, and a robe. But fast forward to the ‘90s and even now to 2020s, and this lingerie-inspired style has shed its pajama past to become a full-blown wardrobe staple.

The slip dress has evolved with endless silhouettes, from minis to midis and maxis — in every size, shape, color, and print. It’s a year-round must, just as appropriate for weddings as happy hours and, when styled correctly, the office. You can wear it solo in summer, layered with a tee or cardigan in cooler weather, or top it off with a faux fur jacket in the dead of winter. For 35 slip dresses that take you from day to night in style, keep scrolling.

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After originally selling out in five hours — and again on Sperry’s own site — the Sperry x Aritzia boat shoes are getting re-stocked on Aritzia’s website on April 26 at 12 a.m. PST. 

While spring 2024 brought us the surprising return of the Clarks Wallabee, spring 2025 is bringing another prep-school classic: the boat shoe. Then again, maybe we shouldn’t be surprised. The “fisherman aesthetic” started trending on TikTok this past January, casting its net as one of the biggest spring trends and putting nautical styles back into the spotlight. And the newest ones you should test the waters with are from the Sperry x Aritzia collaboration.

Sperry, the nostalgic original boat shoe brand founded in 1935, teamed up with Aritzia, the modern “elevated essentials” fashion brand, to reimagine the latter’s iconic boat shoes with two new styles.

“The boat shoe is more than just a trend — it’s a timeless staple that has defined style for nearly nine decades,” said Sperry’s president Jonathan Frankel in a press release. “This partnership is a perfect fusion of heritage and modernity, bringing fresh versatility to an enduring icon.”

The Sperry x Aritzia Slim Boat has a sleek, narrow toe box and anti-slip outsole (because functional fashion is at the heart of the fisherman trend). It comes in full-grain leather, and is available in brown and light brown colorways.

Meanwhile, the Sperry x Aritzia Authentic Original 2-Eye, which resembles a loafer (also very on trend), features premium leather, rawhide laces, and the brand’s signature “Razor-Cut Wave-Siping” outsole. These are available in brown and tan.

Perhaps the most exciting part is that both these styles can be customized (and we love customization… hello shoe charm trend). They each come with three sets of interchangeable laces, including colorful ones, to make these shoes even more versatile… and spring-ready.

All that’s left to do? Reel in and hook your pair before they vanish again. The limited restock goes live on Aritzia’s website April 26 at 12 a.m. PST.

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The days are getting longer, the leaves are growing back, and — most importantly — Wayfair’s limited-time Way Day event is about to return, running from April 26 to 28. Expect massive savings of up to 80% off on everything you need (or want because it’s cute) for your home. Grab your wallet and sharpen your eye for design — this sale is here to save you serious cash on everything from office chairs to cozy bedding to small-space essentials.

And while you could pore over every perfectly designed loveseat and adorable organization essential, it’s not like you have all day to scroll through Wayfair’s inventory.

That’s why we’ve done the digging for you, bringing you early-access, editor-approved deals that have earned rave reviews from real shoppers and R29 readers alike.

So, scroll on, study up for Wayfair’s biggest sale of the year, and cart up your favorite bestsellers before they’re gone.

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Spring is here, bringing with it some confusing weather to dress for — some hot, sunny days, some clear, chilly evenings; plenty of seasonal showers and gales, so cue all the transitional essentials. Think lightweight lounge sets, rain-ready outerwear, and functional yet stylish accessories (get ready to meet your dream gym bag).

Of course, FP faves like easy breezy milkmaid dresses, trendy denim, and FP Movement activewear are holding their own in our edit. Whether you’re refreshing your spring wardrobe, shopping for a spring wedding, or hunting for vacation fits with that signature Free People vibe, these new arrivals have you covered.

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Wedding season is upon us. If your calendar is full of spring and summer celebrations, it’s time to plan your looks — and we’re here to help. We’ve rounded up the best wedding guest dresses that hit on this spring’s trends, from romantic ruffles to standout shades like periwinkle blue and butter yellow — for every dress code.

Whether you’re dressing for a black-tie affair, cocktail party, casual celebration, or destination location, these fresh minis, midis, and gowns will land you on the best-dressed guest list. Ahead, peruse 28 spring dresses for every nuptial vibe.

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Welcome to Money Diaries where we are tackling the ever-present taboo that is money. We’re asking real people how they spend their hard-earned money during a seven-day period — and we’re tracking every last dollar.

Today: a retail/fashion buyer who makes $115,000 per year and who spends some of her money this week on international phone charges from a holiday in Australia.

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Occupation: Buyer
Industry: Retail/fashion
Age: 29
Location: New York
Assets: High yield account on Wealthfront earning 4% annual interest: $85,000; Wealthfront stocks roboinvestor: $7,200; Robinhood stock investments: $38,000; company stocks (I automatically put money aside every paycheck and buy stocks at 15% discount four times a year through the employee purchase program): $62,000; 401(k) savings (I get 4%  company match): $66,000.
Debt: $0
Paycheck Amount (2x/week): $3,150
Pronouns: She/her

Monthly Expenses

Housing Costs: $2,100 for a one-bedroom in Brooklyn by myself.
Loan Payments: $0
401(k) Savings: $670 (7% of annual income).
Company Stock Purchase: $960 (9% of annual income).
Gym: $31
Netflix: $16
Spotify: $16.99 (reimbursed by Citibank Gold).
Verizon Fios Wifi: $50
ConEd: $60
Apple Care & iCloud Storage: $13.87

Annual Expenses

Credit Card Membership: $545 — I recently upgraded to a platinum card to gain access to airport lounges, and I’m justifying the $545 annual fee by telling myself the bonus miles will make it worth it. It’s almost enough to score a free flight back home to South America, so it feels like a good investment!
Amazon Membership: $139 (reimbursed by Citibank Gold).
Citi Bike Membership: $0 (through Citibank Gold).

Was there an expectation for you to attend higher education? Did you participate in any form of higher education? If yes, how did you pay for it?
Yes, my parents always expected me to attend college, as they believed higher education was a key step toward building a successful career. They were especially supportive when I decided to pursue a career in the fashion industry. I attended the Fashion Institute of Technology (FIT), where I earned a bachelor of science in fashion business management with a minor in economics. The cost of my education was significantly more affordable thanks to qualifying for in-state tuition, which brought the total tuition for all four years to around $50,000. My dad was able to assist financially, which was a huge relief and allowed me to focus on my studies without taking on any debt. I also worked part time during my time at FIT to help with additional expenses.

Growing up, what kind of conversations did you have about money? Did your parent(s)/guardian(s) educate you about finances?
My dad started giving me a monthly allowance when I was in 5th grade, around 11 years old. It wasn’t much at first — just $20 pesos a month — but it taught me how to manage my money from an early age. At first, I’d spend it on candy or random things, but as I got older, I started saving up for bigger purchases like a hockey stick in middle school, and eventually for clothes and nights out. My parents didn’t sit me down and give me a formal lesson on finances, but my dad was always someone I’d check in with before making any big financial decisions. He guided me when it came to things like credit cards, savings accounts, and picking the right bank. But when it came to more advanced stuff, like stocks and investments, he didn’t have much insight, so I turned to other sources. My minor in economics helped a bit, but the real turning point for me was during COVID-19 when I decided to dive deeper into personal finance. I started investing on my own using Robinhood, reading sites like Investopedia, NerdWallet, and The Motley Fool daily. I learned about things like market trends, stock performance, and what analysts were saying, which gave me the confidence to make smarter financial decisions.

What was your first job and why did you get it?
My first job was as a sales assistant at a clothes store in New York. I was 18 and had just moved to NYC from South America. For the first couple of months, I was basically a tourist, soaking everything in. But by April 2014, I was ready to get to work before starting school in the fall. I went around handing out my résumé to stores all over the city, hoping to make some money and meet new people. Within a couple of days, I got a call for an interview for the store, and I think they hired me on the spot! The only thing was, they asked me to dye my hair from blue to a “natural color”, so I did. It was a fun first job and a huge part of my NYC journey!

Did you worry about money growing up?
I did worry about money sometimes, especially with my mom in South America. She had a tough time making ends meet with what my dad sent for me and my two brothers, but I always knew he’d step in if we really needed something. Growing up, my mom was super resourceful — she stretched every dollar, always shopping on discount days, using daily promos, and making the most of credit card points. She definitely taught me how to be smart with money.

Do you worry about money now?
Luckily, I don’t worry about money right now. I’m still saving and investing, but I have enough of a cushion that I don’t feel stressed. I’m saving up to buy an apartment in New York, but I’m also at a point where I treat myself to pretty much anything I want because I’ve worked hard for it. I don’t believe in just sitting on my money while I save — I’m going to enjoy it along the way!

At what age did you become financially responsible for yourself and do you have a financial safety net?
I’d say I became financially responsible at 22 when I graduated college, moved in with roommates, and started my first full-time corporate job. My dad gave me a $5,000 graduation gift to help kickstart my adult life, which I used for my first month’s rent and deposit on an apartment in Brooklyn with two friends, plus a mattress, a queen bed frame, and a closet from IKEA. Since then, the only thing my parents cover is my phone bill — and they still do, haha!

Do you or have you ever received passive or inherited income? If yes, please explain.
I wish!

Day One: Monday

7:09 a.m. — I’m a stickler for routine, so I have my 7 a.m. alarm locked in from Monday to Thursday. Today I let myself snooze for 9 minutes because I’m so tired after my trip to Australia. Honestly, I’m running on fumes.

8:17 a.m. — Time to start the week and head to work. I only got six hours of sleep because my flight back from Australia was… A nightmare. The flight is already 24 hours long at best, but my flight from Sydney was delayed, I missed my connection in LA, and ended up waiting four hours for the next flight to NY. And to top it all off, 30 minutes before landing in New York we were told we needed to emergency land in NASHVILLE to refuel. What a mess! Anyway, subway ride to work. $2.90

8:30 a.m. — Of course, it’s Presidents’ Day, so the subway is a mess. The last stop on the J train is Hewes St and no J or M trains are running to Manhattan. I exit the subway at Lorimer St, walk to the G train, pay again, and finally transfer to the F train into the city. Welcome back to New York! $2.90

9:08 a.m. — I get to the office and log on to my computer after two weeks away, which is the longest break I’ve ever taken in my adult corporate life. The emails take a few minutes to load… 683 unread emails. I need a minute to process so I head to the kitchen for Monday bagels. I usually get the same: a wholewheat everything bagel with scallion cream cheese.

9:35 a.m — My VP calls me into her office a little too early for my liking, but she wants to talk about soft business across the company and reassure me that everything went smoothly while I was away. I head back to my office and spend the rest of the time catching up on emails, projecting sales, and reviewing selling by label.

1:05 p.m. — I take a short break and order the Skinny Waldorf salad for lunch (my favorite obsession). It’s got arugula, chicken, avocado, toasted pecans, dried cranberries, goat cheese, and balsamic vinaigrette. A dream. I use my $100 gold membership I purchased last year, which grants me 25% off every order for a year. I decided to pick it up to avoid all the extra fees. $15.15

6:02 p.m. — Finally, it’s time to head home. I’m beyond tired, and the subways are still a mess, so I take the A train and then walk 16 minutes in the freezing cold. $2.90

8:11 p.m. — I get home after work but I have NOTHING in my fridge. With the last bit of energy I have, I go to the supermarket and grab some essentials for the week; bananas, strawberries, yogurt, cottage cheese, eggs, chicken, breadcrumbs, butternut squash, avocado, salad mix and some tomatoes. I make a decent salad for dinner but nothing like my favorite one. $85.95

9:48 p.m. — I like eating dinner while watching TV in the living room. Tonight I’m starting Missing You, a show on Netflix. After dinner, I smoke a joint to unwind, scroll for a bit, and head to bed.

Daily Total: $109.80

Day Two: Tuesday

7:01 a.m. — Another rough morning — I’m still very jet lagged. Generally, my mornings are pretty consistent: I jump out of bed at 7:01 a.m., then head to the couch to enjoy a bit of the leftover joint from the night before. Yes, I’m a proud stoner and I start and finish my day with a little joint. Weed helps me focus, it quiets the noise in my head and lets me ease into the day with a bit more clarity. It’s not for everyone but it works for me. Around 7:20 a.m. I head to the shower and wash my hair daily… Curls, you wouldn’t get it. In the shower I wash my face with a La Roche-Posay face cream my mom gave me and after the shower I apply micellar water and moisturizer. I finish by adding leave-in conditioner to my hair and giving it a quick blow-dry.

8:11 a.m. — I aim to catch the subway by 8:20 a.m. at the latest to get to the office around 9 a.m. Luckily the subways are back to normal, so I take my usual J train and connect to the M on Delancey St. $2.90

9:08 a.m. — On Tuesdays we get yogurt, bananas, and some sort of granola bar in the kitchen. I pick up a mango yogurt, a banana for breakfast, and refill my water bottle.

12:30 p.m. — I have lunch with a vendor and they order food up to their showroom for my assistant and me. They eat kosher so we order from Mr Broadway. I opted for vegetable soup with a matzo ball, which was just right for the cold day. After the meeting we head back to the office.

2 p.m. — I have a one-hour Teams call with a West Coast vendor. We tried to review some product but it’s challenging over video so I asked him to send samples to my office.

3:30 p.m. — I have a 30-minute meeting in person with my planner. We are asked to stay until 5 p.m. for a business update meeting. The meeting is short but I still have emails to catch up on, so I return to my office.

6:07 p.m. — Now I’m calling it a day and heading home. $2.90

8:08 p.m. — I begin preparing a butternut squash soup and chicken cutlets for dinner. During this time, I call my parents on speakerphone to catch up after my trip. At the end of the call, I zelle money to my stepmom for the 14 days I used my phone in Australia and got charged $10 a day. They insist I don’t need to repay, but I don’t want to take advantage of them covering my phone bill. Ouch! $140

9:25 p.m. — I didn’t get to finish Missing You last night so I put it on in the background while I enjoyed my soup and chicken followed by a joint.

Daily Total: $145.80

Day Three: Wednesday 

7:01 a.m. — I roll out of bed and straight onto the couch for a quick puff before I shower. Post shower, I do my quick skincare routine with micellar water and moisturizer and blow dry my hair.

7:48 a.m. — I threw on a pair of black Bershka jeans my friend gave me. They have ripped flare bottoms and are definitely my vibe. I paired them with an oversized blazer that mixes cool fabrics, and pointy black booties. I’m feeling pretty cool so I snap and post a picture on my story.

8:15 a.m. — I hate doing it but I always check the MTA app as soon as I leave to see when the next train is coming and always find myself running to catch it. $2.90

11:30 a.m. — I have an internal meeting with another buyer, which lasts about an hour, followed by a lunch meeting with a vendor. My VP joins us and covers the bill, which she will expense.

2:30 p.m. — My assistant and I walk to another vendor meeting nearby. Our vendor surprises us with warm chocolate chip cookies, which totally makes our day. After an hour, we head back to the office.

7:01 p.m. — I end up staying late in the office tackling the neverending unread emails. But honestly, I’m done for today. $2.90

8:44 p.m. — When finally home I start cooking a spinach and cottage cheese quiche with the groceries I bought Monday. I ate half while watching the documentary about Gabby Petito.

11:07 p.m. — While laying on the couch I realize I’m out of Quest bars so I ordered a 12-pack box from Amazon. I get the chocolate chip cookie dough flavor and they have 21g of protein and 12g of fiber! SO good and the perfect sweet fix for me. $24.62

Daily Total: $30.42

Day Four: Thursday

7:09 a.m. — Another snoozing day. I can’t seem to beat this jet lag, but granted I was up after 11 p.m., so that’s on me. You get the drill: puff, puff, shower, minimal face care, and a swift blow dry.

8:07 a.m. — Like clockwork I’m on my way to work. Today’s outfit also makes me feel effortlessly cool. I wear a new shirt I got in Australia that’s made from two dress shirts, paired with some black Uniqlo pants and Viron shoes. $2.90

9:10 a.m. — The tempting aroma from the bakery near my office leads me to grab a croissant on my way in because, let’s face it, I deserve it. $3.90

9:30 a.m — I go straight to my 9:30 a.m. appointment and meet my assistant there. The meeting runs 30 minutes over, causing us to be late to our 10 a.m. Thankfully, our next meeting isn’t until 12 p.m.

11:15 a.m. — I order lunch for the vendor, my assistant, and myself, which will be reimbursed. We get sandwiches and hummus with veggies. When we arrive at the showroom, he had ordered a ton of cookies and cake slices from Milk Bar for dessert. Different vendor, but they always go above and beyond to treat us.  $48.29 (Expensed)

2 p.m. — Busy, busy week. After lunch we head to another appointment that lasts an hour, then walk to our last appointment at 3 p.m. before heading back to the office for a bit.

6:09 p.m. — I’m feeling a lot more caught up so I leave work and head downtown to meet with my cousin, S., who’s visiting from Italy for a week. $2.90

8:05 p.m. — We meet by the Oculus and I get a round of beers at a karaoke Irish pub nearby ($18, plus a $3 tip). We’re tempted to sing something on stage but decide to lay low and sing from the bar. $22

9:04 p.m. — Impromptu drinks take a little longer than I expected and we haven’t eaten so we stop at Whole Foods and get some pita chips, pasta, tomato pesto sauce, and cauliflower rice. $16.01

9:08 p.m. — We take the subway home and start cooking close to 10 p.m. I’m never catching up on sleep. $2.90

Daily Total: $50.61

Day Five: Friday 

8:20 a.m. — I actually wake up feeling pretty rested. Friday is my work-from-home day, so I get to sleep in a bit. S. and I enjoy cottage cheese blueberry pancakes I make for breakfast. The recipe is so simple: for each person, mash one banana and mix it with one egg, one tablespoon of cottage cheese, one tablespoon of all-purpose flour, and a touch of vanilla essence and cinnamon. Thank me later.

10:30 a.m. — I ease into my workday, since I typically don’t have meetings on Fridays. However, my VP schedules a quick touch base at 10:30 a.m. The meeting is brief. I’m all caught up with emails from when I was away, but of course, new things have popped up now that we are back from a week full of meetings. You know how it goes — life.

4:28 p.m. — My weed delivery arrives just as I finish my workday. I buy in bulk and I tip the delivery person $10. $190

8:48 p.m. — I take S. out for drinks at Westlight, the rooftop bar at The William Vale Hotel in Williamsburg. The views are stunning, and it’s a great spot to introduce her to some of my friends. The vibes are great, and we all have an awesome time catching up and enjoying the city skyline. $2.90

11:22 p.m. — I send my friend T. a Venmo covering my drink and the tip for both myself and S. ($22 drink + $8 tip). $30

11:59 p.m. — We move on to another bar where a friend is playing vinyl records. I buy the first round for three of us, but forget to ask everyone for their share, as I often do. $38.93

Daily Total: $261.83

Day Six: Saturday

12:53 a.m. — I get another drink for myself, and wow, it’s pricey! Plus, I can’t stand those iPads that only give you the option to tip 22%, 25%, or 30%. Like, I don’t want to leave a $3 tip for one beer. $18.79

2:05 a.m. — The bar closes and it’s freezing so we grab an Uber and S. covers the ride. Since she owes me from the drink I got her earlier, we’re all squared up.

2:18 a.m. — From the back seat of the Uber I order Burger King to my apartment, since I still hadn’t had dinner. Bacon melt, fries, and a drink — definitely overpriced, but worth every warm greasy bite. $25.20

2:55 a.m. — S. falls asleep on the couch while I devour my burger. I wake her up and we both pass out on the bed.

12:59 p.m. — We finally drag ourselves out of the house and make a quick stop at the nail salon to get my gel nail removed ($11, plus $2.20 tip). I have been picking at them all week. $13.20

1:05 p.m. — Next up: a coffee shop stop for S., because, fun fact, I don’t drink coffee. I know, I know — people think it’s weird, but I just don’t like the taste and I’m not about to start right now. Weed is my caffeine.

1:17 p.m. — We subway over to Williamsburg to hang out and grab some lunch. $2.90

4:01 p.m. — After strolling around Williamsburg and showing S. Domino Park, Berry Street, Artist & Fleas, we sit down for brunch at Cafe Colette. I have eggs Norwegian with a side salad and a lemonade. $34.87

5:05 p.m. — We keep the day going with a stop at Gelateria Gentile for a large cone of crème caramel and frutti di bosco ice cream. Worth every penny. $9.25

6:11 p.m. — Hit my 12 swipes for the week — last time I pay the subway until Monday! Hopefully, this will motivate me to leave the house tomorrow. $2.90

8:19 p.m. — Stay in and ordered some brisket pho from Lucy’s Vietnamese, because why not? S. goes out with a friend, so I kickback, watch Envious on Netflix, and have the ultimate chill night. $21.20

Daily Total: $128.31

Day Seven: Sunday

10:30 a.m — I can’t even remember the last time I slept this late. I’m usually up by 9 a.m. Definitely needed the extra rest.

12:44 p.m. — We head to the city to explore Central Park. Take the A to the C and hop off at 72nd street. First stop? Strawberry Fields. And shoutout to free swipes.

2:38 p.m. — We make our way through Bethesda Terrace, the Bow Bridge and Belvedere castle before grabbing a quick bite from a grocery store near the park. I go with sushi and a mixed fruit thingy. We park ourselves on a bench to enjoy the little moment before going to the MET. $15.96

3:05 p.m. — Our MET tickets are free thanks to my Culture Pass. New Yorkers, don’t sleep on this. If you become a member of the New York or Brooklyn Public Library, you get free tickets to museums. It’s a total game changer.

5:30 p.m. — We have to rush through the last exhibits because the museum is closing. Although we are exhausted, S. is adamant about biking in Central Park. So I use one of my Citi Bike guest passes, grab two bikes and we cruise around the park.

6:30 p.m — After our bike adventure, we head to SoHo to meet my dad for dinner at The Smith so S. could try mac and cheese (yes, she’s 32 and had never had it before.) She can’t stop smiling while eating and keeps asking why they don’t have it in Italy.

8:57 p.m. — My dad covers dinner, but I treat everyone to doughnuts from the Donut Pub. We get a classic chocolate sprinkle, a glazed one, and a Boston cream (my fave). Have to let S. try them all. $9

Daily Total: $24.96

The Breakdown

Conclusion 

“I don’t normally track my spending on a weekly or even monthly basis beyond what shows up on my credit card bills, so this was a helpful and honestly eye-opening exercise. I’m a little surprised by how much I spent on food and drinks — $370 feels like a lot — but I was out a fair amount this week and don’t regret any of it.

“What really threw my week off was the $140 I paid my stepmom for my international phone plan. Plus I stocked up on weed for the month, so in my head the $190 is split into four. Yeah, I know, it’s still a lot but I told you I’m a proud stoner and I don’t think about that part too much. Otherwise, it felt like a pretty normal week in terms of spending. Interestingly I didn’t spend anything on entertainment or home/health this week, which feels like a bit of a wake up call. I’d like to be more intentional about making space for things that support my well being — whether that’s a facial, massage or movie night out.

“Overall, it was interesting to see where the money actually goes. This was a good reminder to be more mindful, especially on the days where I swear ‘I barely spent anything’ ’cause that’s… not exactly true.”

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